So here is my Internet dating advice from the front lines.
To be honest, I'm a skeptic when it comes to online dating.
A second reason is that online dating uses side-by-side comparisons.
Instead of focusing on how compatible we think one potential partner is to us, we perform joint evaluations, which make us prioritize traits that don't really matter to relationship success.
Most of the people that write about online dating write about what’s wrong with it. I mean, that’s what news is – emphasize the bad, misery loves company, etc.It brings out the instability in those that are easily overwhelmed or influenced by a new sense of popularity and attention. What I mean is that online dating, for MANY, lends itself to the "next, next, next, and next, best thing".Even the new tinder and ok cupid swipe technology is playing into this.Friends of both genders tell that their experiences have been hard in different ways.My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.It’s a question that seems distinctly answerable: we have user data, surveys, clear metrics for success or failure, entire books full of colorful charts.